I've changed jobs three times since I graduated from college, and now I haven't worked in almost six months.
My car is parked downstairs, and many of my neighbors in the neighborhood are from the same village. I always feel that some acquaintances pay special attention to my movements, especially on weekdays when I occasionally go downstairs, it's easy to run into some aunts and aunts, who will curiously ask: "Don't you have to go to work today? Where are you going?" They would ask curiously, "Don't you have to go to work today? I don't want them to know that I'm not working, but I'm not good at lying and I don't want to admit it directly, so I talked to my parents and said that I telecommute from home.
To be honest, now that I don't have a job, I'm especially afraid that they will find it embarrassing that I can't find a job at such a young age; even if I find a job in the future, if it's a busy job with a mediocre salary, I'm worried that they'll laugh at me if they know about it.
I'm really afraid they'll find out I'm not doing so well.
I often remind myself that most people are probably just asking casually, and more people are too busy with their own business to pay any attention to me. So, I think it's more about my own psyche at work, with the stress and fear coming mostly from within.
Hello!
I understand very well how you are feeling right now, in fact this emotion is normal and many people go through similar situations.
This feeling stems first and foremost from your lack of acceptance and dissatisfaction with your current situation. It could come from pressure put on you by your parents or other significant others. It could also be your desire to be recognized and respected by others, which is a bit vain, but can also be a motivation to get ahead.
1. Accept your current state as temporary.
You're still young and not being able to find a job for a while is just a transition period, like when you're preparing for exams or helping with housework. This shows that you are responsible, and there is no shame in telling the truth, and most people won't look down on you if they understand. So learn to accept yourself and this stage.
2. Clarify your inner goals based on your own reality.
You have graduated from college, you are young and talented, you have a car, and you are preparing for the civil service exam. To believe in yourself, you are not nothing, the foundation is good, the conditions are also good. I feel that you may not be particularly enthusiastic about taking the civil service examination, or your confidence is low. If it is not what you really want, then think about what you really want to do, and then set a realistic goal, so that you have the motivation to achieve.
3. Work on the ground.
If you feel like you're not doing well because you're not capable, then improve yourself by actually doing something. As you slowly get better, this anxiety will naturally lessen. So, the current state of mind is actually a motivation, and the key is to keep your feet on the ground and work hard to move forward with the resources available to you.
I hope Red Rain's reply helps, thanks for asking!