I'm a more introverted type, not too keen on group activities, and always find socializing physically and mentally exhausting. However, I am also aware that this is easy to suffer in interpersonal communication, so I occasionally force myself to participate in some gatherings, but I always behave awkwardly and look particularly tired.
What exactly should I adjust to get better?
Hello!
You have taken the first step by being aware of your character traits. With this self-awareness, coupled with realistic needs and personal determination, progress can slowly be felt.
First, introverted and extroverted personalities have their own strengths and weaknesses.
For example, introverts may not be good at socializing, but tend to be insightful and like to think deeply;
Whereas extroverts are sociable and a fish out of water in a crowd, they may find it more difficult to enjoy solitude late at night and instead tend to feel empty.
So don't underestimate yourself, look at strengths and weaknesses objectively, and build confidence from the inside out so that you can find a sense of ease and comfort in socializing.
I. Why do introverts feel constrained when socializing?
Introverts are more accustomed to being alone than in lively situations, and being alone brings security and freedom and fulfills inner needs. This is normal, when you feel tired of socializing, don't desperately repress or reject this feeling, accept it and face it first, in order to free yourself from the conflict.
II. Must adjustments be made? If so, what should be done?
1、"Goal-driven "配合积极心理暗示
If work or life requires you to be social, motivate yourself with goals. Keep telling yourself to stop focusing on the discomfort and think more about the benefits of socializing, such as expanding your network or gaining new knowledge, and reinforce those positives by telling yourself that socializing is just one way to achieve your goals.
2. Pay more attention to the "positive energy" in the environment.
For example, meeting new people through socializing;
Or learn new knowledge, perspectives, etc. from it. Focus on those things that recharge your batteries and slowly you'll be less nervous and uptight.
Then again, such breakthroughs may lead to other windfalls.
If a change is needed, you have to give yourself enough time to adapt and allow for slow growth.
any trait associated with the self.
The more accepting and relaxed you are, the easier it is to break through.
The more you resist, the more likely you are to have inner conflict.