Recently the news broke that the Guangzhou Civil Affairs Bureau's divorce appointment quota on 520 was all full ......
Every Valentine's Day or Tanabata, in addition to those couples who are showing love and spreading dog food, there is another group of people who are busy divorcing, breaking up, and ending a relationship that may not be a good fit.
Analyzing this from a social psychological or other perspective, why do people pick a ritualistic day like 520 to end an intimate relationship?
Hi Owner, this is quite a poignant question you're asking, why would people pile on and choose to separate on this particular holiday?
The role of social psychology
1. Recognize yourself: If everyone can understand himself/herself soberly, he/she will be able to avoid a lot of impulsive and silly things. In reality, people often overestimate their own ability and level, and as a result, they make unrealistic demands, and once they are not satisfied, suffering naturally comes.
2. Getting to know others: We deal with different people every day in our lives, and although everyone's behavior varies greatly, there are always patterns to follow. By observing what others say and do, we can determine the character of the other person and then respond appropriately.
3. Understanding society: By learning social psychology, we can better understand the characteristics of the society in which we live and how people react in that environment, so that we can adapt to it more easily.
4. Understanding life: For modern people, the meaning of life does not lie in how rich or famous they are, but in four aspects: first, autonomy - being able to take charge of one's own affairs; second, competence - having the ability to accomplish one's own tasks; third, interpersonal relationships - having strong connections with others and not being alone; and fourth, self-esteem - having a clear perception and positive evaluation of oneself. -- to establish close ties with others and not to be alone; and fourth, self-esteem -- to have a clear perception and positive evaluation of oneself.
romance
Psychologist Rollo May said that love is giving, not taking; it is active emotion, not passive acceptance. According to him, true love consists of four elements: care, responsibility, respect and understanding.
Companionate love, on the other hand, revolves around three themes: attachment - needing and desiring the other person; caring - doing everything possible to make the other person happy; and trust and self-expression - being willing to share everything. If one of these themes is missing or weak, it can shake people's faith in this kind of love.
The holiday of 520 will precisely stimulate people to reflect on the three themes of companionate love. On this day, people will pay more attention to the actual meaning of love, after all, the daily fodder and oil and salt has been taken for granted, but the occasional romantic heating up is still necessary.