Recently, I have always been intermittently depressed, inexplicably want to cry, this state has lasted for several years, although it does not affect the daily work and life, but more and more frequently feel that I am not needed, and can not find the meaning of life. Obviously, there are good friends around me, my loving husband and caring mother, but still feel that no one in the world really need me, the heart is empty, and even late at night alone sad to tears. Every time my emotions come up, I try to remind myself that there are actually a lot of people who love me.
But all this self-soothing still can't stop the negativity. I don't think it's like depression myself, but I can't tell what's wrong ......
💚(´▽｀)ノノ I'm Peaches
Hello.
Dear Friend ❤
Seeing your description, I can feel that the negative emotions have quietly affected the rhythm of your life. Let's sort out the possible reasons and hope the following sharing can give you some inspiration ❤
Emotional troubleshooting step 1: Rule out physical factors first
The first thing we need to look at when it comes to emotional problems is whether something is wrong with our bodies.
Organic lesions refer to substantial damage to body organs or tissues for various reasons. For example, early hypertension may only be a functional problem, but if it is poorly controlled and develops to cause damage to organs such as the heart, brain and kidneys, it becomes an organic lesion.These types of physical changes can sometimes be directly implicated in mood swings.
You are in your 30s and have recurring moods and intermittent meltdowns, it is recommended that you first go to a tertiary care hospital to check for endocrine problems such as polycystic ovary syndrome. A lot of women in their 20's and 30's experience this condition andData show that about 21%-40% of polycystic patients are accompanied by depression, about 35% have anxiety symptoms, and emotional problems are negatively correlated with education level and income.
Mood anxiety and depression may be associated with elevated luteinizing hormone, a hormone that affects the overall endocrine system through the nervous system. For people with polycystic conditions, chronic emotional problems may not just be a result of stress, but are sometimes related to neural sensitivity - just as some people are naturally more neurologically sensitive and tend to amplify reactions to external stimuli.
If emotional distress continues to be difficult to resolve, concerted neurological intervention may be needed in addition to psychological adjustment. Modalities such as yoga can be helpful for mild to moderate emotional problems, but for long-term severe distress, professional medical treatment is still needed. Therefore, it is recommended that blood tests be done to rule out physical factors before further exploring psychological causes.
Why do I always feel like no one needs me?
Human needs can be divided into two parts: what they need for themselves, and what they need to be needed by others.
What you're struggling with is probably the second "neediness".
The psychological need to be needed by others
In addition to taking from society, people also have a desire to give. This giving, in fact, means giving back to the world with one's own abilities.
It is a normal psychological mechanism that everyone wants to be needed by others at the core of their being - because we need to prove our worth by being recognized. As people often say, when you come to the world, you always want to leave some kind of trace.
The degree of being needed often reflects the size of individual value. For example, Yuan Longping academician let hundreds of millions of people have enough to eat, Zhong Nanshan academician in the epidemic to guard the health, their value through the social need and highlight. Ordinary people are the same, in the workplace desire to be reused, seeking promotion, essentially is the embodiment of the psychological need.
This desire to be needed will exist naturally as long as the mind is healthy. You need to understand that both the need for self and being needed by others is the process of proving worth.
For example, if someone goes from living in a bungalow to a villa, this increase in material needs is also a way of communicating the growth of self-worth to society. And being needed by others is also a manifestation of value - even as ordinary as we are, we long to be recognized and do not want to be ignored.
So, needing and being needed are both normal psychological activities that ultimately point to the same goal: to confirm that one's existence has meaning.
You now have a happy family with the support of your loved ones, relatives and friends. If you have persistent emotional outbursts without obvious stressors in your life, it is advisable to prioritize the investigation of physical factors.
If your emotions still plague your life after ruling out physical problems, try counseling, where a professional can help you find the deeper reasons behind your emotions.
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A final thought.
May you slowly find your inner sunshine and your smile stay ❤
Cheer up! ❤