I often feared that I would be isolated or abandoned, and the thought of eating, studying, and attending classes alone and the feeling of helplessness that comes from having no one to keep me company really made me panic.
Even if things haven't happened yet, I keep ruminating and always guessing in the worst direction! Always feeling like I can't fit in with the group, as if I'm the only one left in the world struggling.
A casual remark from others can make me have mood swings for a long time, and I'm especially afraid of being disliked or left behind, afraid to face moments alone, and always imagining my life alone like drowning in despair. What should I do? Is this depression? This kind of pain has been bothering me for a long time, and I can't hold my breath inside, what am I afraid of? What am I afraid of? The fear is inexplicable, as if I've been abandoned by the world. Please advise me, do I need counseling?
Hello friend, I am the enthusiastic respondent of the lofty emotions, I am glad to meet you through this platform.
I totally understand the angst and nervousness you feel when you're facing the world alone.
A warm hug to you first!
⭕️ briefly sorts out the core of the problem:
We tend to be afraid of being alone and dealing with life's chores alone because it makes it hard to breathe and especially hard on the heart.
△ In fact, similar situations are quite common among many of my peers.
So you're not alone in this fight, come on!
⭕️ Psychologically, our sense of self-worth may be overly dependent on the outside world
Let me share a little personal opinion:
It's easy to base our self-worth on the judgment and vision of others, and we rarely take a moment to examine our own behavior and growth.
Δ may feel that their efforts are wasted if no one notices.
Because we would think that doing a good job and having no one to recognize it is the same as having no effect.
How can ⭕️ be improved?
I believe that the world works based on objective facts, just like the sun rises in the east and sets in the west, and doesn't change based on what we think.
So when you are alone, you can tell yourself that if you step forward and do it and learn it, you will be able to cope with the challenges. Even if someone criticizes, we still have the ability to move forward.
If the ability is not enough, others praise loudly, happy is only temporary, and ultimately have to make up for the shortcomings.
Being alone allows us to evaluate ourselves more objectively, and this reflection drives progress; when we are truly stronger, outside recognition will come naturally.
Way to go friend, and I'm always rooting for you.
I hope my sharing brings you a little warmth.