Many people have had the experience of dealing with strangers instead of being able to talk and laugh, but as soon as they meet a familiar friend, they are suddenly too nervous to speak. This kind of social anxiety makes it impossible to relax and communicate, always trying desperately to hide their own uneasiness, but the result is more and more black.
Afterwards, the brain will uncontrollably replay the scene, and all kinds of analysis and judgment will come to mind. Inside, you are eager to get together with your friends, but at the same time, you are afraid of having an anxiety attack, worrying about saying the wrong thing, losing face, or even hurting your self-esteem with an unintentional comment from a friend. This kind of ambivalence is really very distressing, what should we do?
Cuddle friend, I can understand your feelings when I read your question. In fact, this kind of "acquaintance anxiety" is very common, often because we care too much about what our friends think of us, and we always want to be perfect, but we put too much pressure on ourselves.
First, don't be too hard on yourself. Social anxiety isn't your fault; it can stem from the importance placed on relationships. Try to let go of the "must be perfect" baggage and accept that the occasional snub or slip of the tongue is normal. Friends are friends because they accept you for who you are.
You can start practicing with small things. For example, when meeting with a friend start by setting small goals: only talk about three topics today, or allow yourself one pause. Take your time and you'll notice a gradual decrease in anxiety.
If anxiety is seriously affecting your life, seek professional help. Counseling or social skills training can provide support. Remember, you don't have to tough it out alone, and seeking help is a sign of bravery.
Refueling! I'm sure you can find what works for you and enjoy the relaxing time with your friends again.