I am currently working in my mother's friend's relative opened a company, the boss is quite good to me, but before the colleagues fight each other, the old take me as a shield, make the interpersonal relationship is particularly stiff, suffered a belly of aggression. I am serious and responsible by nature, but this time I was really hurt, and I feel particularly unworthy. The company's overall atmosphere is poor, the work content is not meaningful, and can not see the growth of space, I took the excuse to take the accounting license to take a long vacation. Originally wanted to quit directly, but in the way of mom's friend's face, did not have the heart to say, had to vaguely promise to go back. Now the exam is over, have to face the return to work, but the shadow of the previous is still there, the heart is particularly resistant to the mention of the work of anxiety, I really do not know how to get along with those who can not get along. I don't know how to get along with those people who don't get along. What should I do in the end?
Friend, a warm hug to you first!
After reading your sharing, I can especially understand your feelings. Working in that kind of depressing company environment can really kill one's vigor. Unless you have a particularly tough personality and know how to dislike it, it's really quite hard to get through.
Since this environment is clearly not a good fit for your career, why not consider leaving?
Let's talk about why you're afraid to walk away.
One is because this is a company owned by a relative of my mom's friend, and even if I don't like it anymore, after all, I got in through connections, so I'm afraid that quitting will make my mom lose face.
But I have a feeling you've lasted quite a long time at the company, haven't you? If you can't get used to it or can't cope with it, the company and your family should be able to understand if you choose to leave. If mom is reasonable, she won't let you suffer just to save face. Even if she doesn't understand for the time being, you have to communicate with her in advance and explain the reasons properly.
○2 The fact that the boss is nice to you may be one of the reasons for your hesitation.
The kindness of your boss may be a recognition of your ability, or just a favor to take care of you, or you may have given you pointers at work that made you feel rewarded, so you can't leave. Plus if you resign, you don't know how to talk to your boss for fear of hurting your feelings.
But the key is still to weigh the pros and cons and see which side is more favorable to you.
○3 is that after this blow, you may be a bit lack of confidence and afraid of not being able to find a new job, so you'd rather maintain the status quo.
My advice:
1. If the work environment makes you overall become negative, tired, and have no motivation at all, then I truly think quitting is better for you. Long-term repression is easy to suffocate the heart disease, when you get used to this state, one day broke out and then change jobs, may even adapt to the new environment of the enthusiasm is gone.
2. What is the boss really basing his treatment of you on? Is it mom's favor, or sympathy, or really value your ability? If it's the former, it's hard to last; the only thing that's stable is having your abilities recognized. But now you are not highly motivated, and your ability can not be utilized, but delay yourself.
3. If you feel directly resignation is too much, you can set a deadline, such as three more months to fight, make every effort to do something for the company's achievements, regardless of the results of the time to mention the departure. This is also considered affordable to themselves and the company.
I hope these suggestions help you! Cheer up oh!