The recent hit TV series "Growing Up With You" has triggered extensive discussion. The drama shows four parenting styles through four families, namely democratic, authoritarian, spoiled and free-range parenting styles, which are vividly embodied in the children, making us reflect on the current situation of education in China, which is more preferable in the end? What kind of education can really promote the healthy development of children's body and mind?
Hi, building owner! I'm Whale Social Worker Koboku, giving you a warm hug first.
I very much understand your confusion about your parenting style, and I can see from your description that you are looking for the right parenting style for your child.
In fact, the family should be more of a loving harbor than an extension of the school, and the learning aspect should be left mainly to the school's responsibility.
In traditional Chinese families, parents can sometimes be overly strict or spoiled, especially in families where gender bias exists, but the heart of the home is to teach children to love and be loved, as well as to behave in the world.
There is a concept in psychology called "gentle firmness," which means being gentle with your children and giving them a sense of security and making the home a place to rely on, but also setting clear boundaries.
I hope these suggestions will help you! Good luck ~ (whale social worker 🐳)