I am a junior in high school.
In a large group of several hundred people, I was joking with a friend who I don't know very well but we have played together. We were having a good time and laughing, but he suddenly flipped out and said, "Do we know each other well?" and "Don't start a war of words here". In such a big group, these words made me lose face. In the past, he usually didn't care about what I said, although he did lose his temper, which I can understand, but this time I couldn't sleep the whole night, and when I closed my eyes, I thought of this incident.
Hugs to you first! I can especially understand how confusing and hard it is for you right now. Junior year is a stressful time in school, and it must be even worse when you have to deal with something like this.
Getting along with friends is sometimes so unpredictable, obviously just a moment ago he was flirting easily, and then in the blink of an eye he looked like a different person and said something so hurtful to his face. Especially in a large group of several hundred people, that kind of embarrassment and embarrassment must have been magnified many times.
You said he was generally inconsiderate before, which makes it even harder for you to accept this change. But we have to understand that everyone has their own emotions and bottom line, and maybe this time, when joking around, one of the words accidentally poked his sensitive spot and made him explode instantly. Or he may have been experiencing some other problems and was not very stable, which is why he reacted so violently.
The fact that you can't sleep all night and think about it when you close your eyes means that it really affects you a lot. But it's not a good idea to keep dwelling on this kind of emotion, we have to face it and solve it positively.
You can find a suitable opportunity to talk to him privately. Don't use an accusatory tone, but calmly ask him why he reacted so badly at the time. Tell him how you feel, let him know that his words hurt you, and at the same time express how much you value the relationship and want to understand what he's thinking so you can get along better in the future.
If he's willing to communicate, you can talk together about boundaries in getting along, such as what jokes are okay to make and what words might make the other person uncomfortable. This will prevent similar unpleasantness in the future.
If he doesn't want to talk or still has a bad attitude, then you shouldn't push too hard. Maybe he's not ready right now, or doesn't want to stay friends. This is the time for you to learn to adjust your mindset and not let this overly affect your emotions and life.
Junior year is a critical time, and our main focus has to be on our studies. Don't let this little thing slow us down. You can spend more time with positive friends, encourage each other and work together.
In the meantime, learn something from this. When you get along with your friends, pay more attention to what you say and do, and respect each other's feelings. Even if it's a joke, you have to be sure to keep it in check and don't touch other people's bottom line.
It's normal for friends to be at odds with each other, it's all about how they handle it. Don't deny the whole friendship just because of one unpleasantness, and don't let yourself be trapped in negative emotions all the time. I believe that time will slowly wash away this matter, you can also get out of the haze, re-enter the study and life!