I've often wondered what I can do to improve my ability to contain negative emotions. What can I do now after having so many damaging emotions built up in the past, when it felt like I was completely lost? Emotions come in like a raging wave and catch you off guard.
Sometimes I wish I didn't have to go through all this pain, and I envy those who have been carefully cared for since childhood. I didn't know what real pain was before, but now that I've experienced it, I realize that it's not something you can just talk about, and my heart is clogged.
And it all feels like nothing makes sense, like I'm being held back by my family of origin. I feel especially powerless when everyone else has reached the finish line with ease and I'm still dawdling at the start.
Hi! First of all, I'll give you a warm hug through the air. I'm so glad to see you share this, and I hope my advice will be of some tangible help to you. The key first step to improving emotional inclusion is to accept your emotions and learn to be acutely aware of them.
Awareness is the starting point for change, and the prerequisite for change is acceptance. In your daily life, you can practice deep breathing to keep yourself connected to your body and mind, and focus your attention on how your body feels, rather than being carried away by the jumbled thoughts in your head or outside distractions.
When we are more connected to our bodies through deep breathing, we become more acutely aware of our emotional state. Once you are able to see the emotion, instead of being led by it, you learn to release and express it in an appropriate way, rather than lashing out impulsively.
You can also try keeping an emotional diary to help with awareness, recording your daily feelings and dialoguing with your emotions, which can help you better sort out your emotions and identify the real needs hidden behind them.
Emotions themselves are not good or bad; behind every emotion lies an unseen or unmet need, especially negative emotions. Therefore, emotions need to be seen, accepted, and responded to, which is the healthy way to deal with them.
Don't compare yourself to anyone but yourself. Everyone's life experiences are different, so everyone has their own rhythm in life. Follow your own pace, stay true to your heart, be true to yourself, and be honest about how you feel.
I'm Lilly the Answer House Little Ears, the world and I love you all the time.
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