I often wonder why those female coworkers always love to reprimand me. Maybe there is something I didn't do well enough to meet the standard of perfection, but as soon as they see me make a small mistake, even a minor one, they will loudly accuse me, making me hurt inside. The work itself is already quite exhausting, and having to endure this additional psychological pressure. You may wonder why I don't communicate with them directly, but if you haven't experienced this environment yourself, it may be hard to understand my situation. I felt that they were hostile to me, even like a kind of homophobic attack. For example, when I moved a cardboard box a little bit slower, a girl said "Get out of my way" in a disgusted tone. I always felt that many girls were very unfriendly and even a bit vicious, which made me feel especially bad.
Why is it that part of the girls are so bad? Could it be that I'm imagining things for myself?
Hello my friend, first a warm hug for you! Everyone encounters bad things in their lives, but some people choose to digest their emotions on their own, while others take out their negative emotions on others.
🕊️🕊️🕊️ Do not do unto others what you would not have them do unto you.
While working at a supermarket may seem simple, it's kind of a small workplace, and the workplace often puts down newcomers, and you may just happen to be that newcomer.
"I often wonder why my female coworkers always reprimand me. Maybe there are things I don't do well enough to meet the standard of perfection, but when they see me make a little mistake, even if it's a minor one, they will loudly accuse me.''
At work, they may have suffered similar anger before, and your arrival allows them to find an outlet. Although they escaped that situation themselves, they are still unbalanced and use you as a punching bag.
Your little missteps become the reason for their reprimands. Do unto others as you would have them do unto you, but it's obvious they didn't handle their emotions well.
It's really not easy to be the punching bag, with the double pressure of the exhaustion of your job and the psychological damage you have to endure. And what you said about not communicating, in their eyes, you may appear to be a bully and take it casually.
'Don't ask me why I didn't communicate with them, you weren't in that situation and I felt that they were homophobic towards me and with malice.'
From your perspective, this could be a preconceived impression. Because they are unfriendly, you feel that communication is useless. But if you don't try to communicate, you'll just have to keep holding back and be treated like a soft touch.
If communicated, the results may not be immediately better, but at least let them know that you are not to be messed with and have a temper of your own.
🕊️🕊️🕊️ do your job first
"Once I moved a cardboard box a little slower, and a girl got very disgusted and said to get out of the way. I always feel that many girls are very unfriendly and even vicious.
You may have some complaints about the society, thinking that the world is unfair and everyone is bullying you. But it's no use complaining, the key is to improve yourself and give those who bully you a run for their money.
Supermarket jobs are tough as you have to do physical work in addition to cashiering. This job may be quite stable for you now, but don't rest on your laurels, you should find ways to advance.
Do a good job is the basis of work, work in place, others again nitpicking, you also have the courage to fight back. We are all working, there is no difference between high and low, there is no need to give in.
This job is stable, but the people you come into contact with may be at a limited level, which will affect your horizons. Why don't you improve yourself, and when you are able to do so, you can find a better job, meet a better circle, and expand your horizons, instead of being stuck here worrying about some boring people?
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Realize that people who hate you don't suddenly get better, they may still base their happiness on your misery, and the more unhappy you are, the more pleased they are.
On the contrary, if you work hard to improve yourself and leave them far behind, they can only stare and do nothing like a clown. The better off you are, the angrier they get.
To go farther, when your circle is elevated, they are just passers-by in your eyes. Maybe one day when you see them again, they are still working in the supermarket, and you are already a customer.
Don't generalize, not all girls are like that, and don't take things too badly. There are still a lot of wonderful people and things in the world.
The above is what I have shared and I hope it helps you.
Good luck!