Is love equated with possessiveness, protectiveness and attachment? If a person has never felt love, is this some kind of deficiency in personality?
Hello, Mr. Owner:
What exactly is love? Is it really just a combination of possessiveness, protectiveness and attachment?
～～～～ In fact, love has many forms of expression, some love may carry a selfish component, while some love is completely selfless to give.
We can broadly categorize love into: camaraderie among friends, dearness among loved ones, caring in society, self-love for oneself, and possible overindulgence.
Many times, it is not that we do not have love, but those subtle care is so common that we often ignore. For example, a word of comfort when you are sick, when you lose your job to cheer you up; the romance of two lovers, the flutter of love at first sight; or confidant in your trough of enlightenment and help.
Of course, love can sometimes go too far, as in the case of some people who force their ideas on others - and call it "I'm doing it for your own good".
Protectiveness, on the one hand, makes people feel responsible and handsome, and on the other hand, when they see someone they care about suffer, they can't help but stand up and protect them.
Attachment, on the other hand, is that sense of security that the other person gives you, so that you can relax and be yourself, but if you rely too much on the relationship, you will be prone to suffer. If the other person is a little off, you may think: Are you not in love with me anymore? Why are you different from before? You must have changed your heart.
.................. Some loves can leave one breathless, and certainly not having been loved can be seen as one of life's regrets.
It is precisely because life is always imperfect that we look forward to the future. If a person is strong in himself or herself and does not need the support and encouragement of others, then perhaps there is no need to deliberately pursue love.
In my opinion: love is to respect each other, understand each other and grow together. Sometimes you may meet someone who is a bit macho, but you know he is genuinely for your own good, and you believe that he will not betray; or you may meet a gentle and fragile girl, and you will think that you must guard her in this life.
～～～～～ Figuring out who you love, why you love, and if the other person loves you are super important questions. Life is like a journey to discover love, and who knows who you'll meet next.
The process will inevitably involve anxiety, panic, and self-doubt, but trust me: when you meet that right person, all the previous bumps in the road will be worthless.